118. The Relationship Advice I Would Give You If I Wasn’t Afraid to Hurt Your Feelings | People Pleasing, Self-Worth & Love
"Trust that life loves you enough to break your heart if that means saving your soul" - Brianna Weist
If you’ve ever stayed silent to “keep the peace,” over-explained your needs, or felt like love always slips through your fingers—this episode is for you.
In this no-fluff conversation, I’m sharing the relationship advice most people won’t tell you—because they don’t want to hurt your feelings. But I’d rather tell you the truth than let you stay stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and heartbreak.
(01:48) wanting to be seen authentically
(04:54) the ultimatium, the materialists, and how relationship advice changes as society changes
(10:21) people pleasing always backfries
(14:20) the karpman drama triangle
(15:29) how people pleasers become the bad guy
(18:36) not wanting to hurt someone vs. honest communication
(22:19) people pleasing is keeping you from being loved
(24:14) perfection is not required to be loved, but authenticity is
(26:05) transitioning out of people pleasing by speaking out your fears and anxiety
(30:49) the hardest people to love are the people who do not love themselves
(34:25) deciding the intention for being in a relationship
(36:49) why you're at risk of sabotaging a healthy relationship
(40:37) doing the work to see your inherent value
(44:54) people don't need to be tested, but they do need to be vetted
(48:55) sharing you trauma responsibly
(49:29) being transparent vs. being vulnerable
(55:24) be honest about where you're making decisions from
(59:41) when you get what you want, can you keep it?
(1:03:22) why we lie to ourselves
(1:08:27) discernment, detachment, and devotion
(1:12:04) rewiring relationship trauma through hypnotherapy
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